Why We Experience Social Anxiety

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBZyFMd6La4When we experience social anxiety our brain is getting triggered. It is perceiving the situation as a threat just like our ancestors used to feel threatened when facing a tiger. Our brain doesn't know the difference, it just reacts very quickly. We experience fight, flight, or freeze and our nervous system jumps in to try and protect us. The reason we experience anxiety is because the situation is tied to a negative belief such as "I'm not good enough, people don't like me, I'll be made fun of". Our brain…

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Anger Is A Misunderstood Emotion: New Ways to Think About

by Carlene Lehmann, M.A., LMFT Anger has been misunderstood. Seen as something to avoid or scary. Anger has gotten a bad rap. Many of my clients describe it as something to avoid, as scary, or destructive. I get where this comes from. All we have to do is think of an example in our lives where someone lost it when they got angry and we felt scared. Maybe you were a child and had an angry parent. You were vulnerable and if the angry outbursts weren’t unpredictable this just increases…

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What Happens to the Brain During Conflict in Relationships? (Part 1 of 2)

When you experience conflict in your relationship, do you wonder why it is so hard to stop the conflict from escalating? In this video, Carlene Lehmann, a licensed marriage and family therapist, shares what is going on in your and your loved one's brain and nervous system. Understanding how to work with your nervous system can help you deescalate your conflicts.

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Important Role Your Nervous System Plays in Trauma Recovery

by Carlene Lehmann, M.A., LMFT In recent years, trauma researchers have learned that the nervous system has an important role in regulating extreme stress and have learned some techniques in regulating it. You have probably heard of the fight, flight, or freeze response which describes our body’s need to seek safety when feeling danger by defending ourselves or running away. Let’s begin by understanding the benefits of a regulated nervous system. How does a regulated nervous system work? A regulated nervous system experiences stress and calming responses through the course…

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