This is one way we can react when our trauma is triggered. This would be the fight response in the fight, flight, or freeze responses. I hope this helps you have a great understanding about what happens in either yourself, a loved one, or other person in your life. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o0FtfB4Co0k
By Brent AtkinsonHere we go again, I thought.Loretta and Jack were back in my office, dispirited and fed up. "I don't think I love him anymore," Loretta began, and what caught my attention was not what she said but the way she said it: quietly, flatly, as though she was beyond caring.During our first round of couples therapy, one year earlier, 31-year-old Loretta hadn't said anything quietly. She'd been chronically pissed off at Jack and had let him know via frequent, name-calling outbursts. Jack, 33, prided himself on his levelheadedness…
Emotions and Communication The pie graph to the side shows the components of communication from Albert Mehrabian's studies. When communicating with another person, we do not just communicate using words. We also use tone and body language. The studies showed that the actual words we use are less significant than the tone and body language (including facial expression) in order to get the full message from the speaker. Our emotions (emotional brain states) show in our body language and tone and we may end up communicating more through these than…
This explanation follows in line after the Awareness Wheel.Before we explain the Listening Cycle, here are some simple ground rules for communication in general:Rules for the both of you:The speaker has the floor. Don't cut off the speaker or finish his or her sentences.Share the floor (take turns)No problem solvingSpeaker:Say "I" statements, Speak for selfShare your feelings without putting down your friendBe specific and brief about your perceptions and feelings (2 - 3 sentences)Stop and allow your listener to paraphrase (if the paraphrase is not accurate, politely restate what was not…
Psychologists have studied what effective communication looks like for married couples for decades. After uncovering what factors contribute to effective communication, some clever people have combined these ideas into a simple model that we share here. This model is known as the Awareness Wheel and Listening Cycle. Communication skills can improve all kinds of relationships. We hope you find this short tutorial useful and even purchase the book if you would like to learn more.Before we explain Awareness Wheel and Listening Cycle communication, here are some simple ground rules for…
https://youtu.be/OB7BN2DIV7w Trauma and it’s negative effects on our mental health has been an age old problem. Therapist Shauna Quigley demystifies the healing process by sharing her story of healing her own childhood trauma. She invites you to consider the idea that trauma can be healed if we allow the body to inform the mind.
https://youtu.be/UU7eSxcBhpM Trauma is an epidemic, contributing to problems in countless homes and workplaces worldwide. People who have experienced trauma are 15 times more likely to commit suicide, three times more likely to experience depression or use antidepressant medication, four times more likely to become an alcoholic, develop an STD, or inject drugs, and three times more likely to have serious job problems or be absent from work. While experts disagree on the single best modality to treat trauma, there is general agreement that it won't be one thing that does…
The acronym RAIN – Recognize, Allow, Investigate, Nurture – guides us in bringing mindfulness and compassion to difficult emotions. With practice, we can find our way home to open-hearted presence in the midst of whatever arises. Allow yourself to be with your feelings and see what they have to tell you. The video below is Tara Brach leading you through a meditation using the practice of RAIN. For more information and a printout of these steps, you can visit Tara Brach's website at https://www.tarabrach.com/rain-practice-radical-compassion/.
